We are having a party and it is going to be the biggest party we've thrown since our wedding - a 40th birthday, casino night thing. We sent out a save the date way in advance. Now, one of my friends has RSVP'd that she won't be coming. No explaination as to why she can't (on the e-vite). She sang at my wedding, I was a bride's maid in hers, so I'm curious and truthfully I'd like her to be there. Should I ask for an explaination? or just accept she won't be coming? I think I'm going to have to ask, so maybe the better advice would be how to do it...
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.
I would call her. Thank her
I would call her. Thank her for the response and ask how she is doing. Perhaps she will offer up the reason why she can't attend. There may be a lot going on in her life that she hasn't shared with you yet. Good luck and have fun at the party!
Mom of teenage boys!
Does your friend live in
Does your friend live in town? I assume so, or you probably won't be wondering why she can't attend. If I had a close friend that couldn't come, I wouldn't have any problem asking her. Are you two still close? I would just say, "I'm so sad you can't make it the the party! I'm really going to miss you! What are you guys doing that night?" I'd just be really casual about it. Chances are, she's got a good reason...something for the kids, etc. No matter what happens though, don't let it bother you, and enjoy your party!
Hobbymommy, 38, is a discussion leader from Mesa. She is a happy stay-at-home mommy to a 3-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son.
I would call her, tell her
I would call her, tell her she'll be missed at the party and try to catch up with her. This may lead to an explanation.
Susie is a discussion leader in the east valley for arizonamoms.com. She has two sons, ages 6 and 2.
I would imagine you feel
I would imagine you feel hurt. I'm guessing she must have a good reason - maybe she has a prior commitment or something is happening in the family that others may not know about. Who knows...but I'm sure its for a reason. I'd just catch up with her - maybe a phone call and just tell her you will miss her at the party. Like someone before said...maybe that will get her talking. I wouldn't be too offended if she cannot make it - I know life is busy and sometimes its hard being in many places at one time. My calendar is booked for parties and other commitments way out to December 2008 - so sometimes I too have to decline an invitation. Many times I so wish I could go, but have already make other commitments. I'm sure your friend feels the same way. Give her a call.
LisaMommy is a 38 year old discussion leader for arizonamoms.com from the Paradise Valley/Scottsdale area. Her two boys are ages 7 months and 3 years old.
I did e-mail and she said
I did e-mail and she said she'd love to come, but she has a church conflict and her daughter's Girl Scout bridge ceremony. I wrote back that I wouldn't even TRY to compete with God and Girl Scouts and that we should get our families together soon. She agreed and actually asked for days we were free. I need to get back with her now before she starts to worry.
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.
Your feelings are
Your feelings are understandable and you may be worried about nothing. I'd give her a call or send an email to see how she is doing. You could tell her you understand she can't make the party, but you would like to meet her out for lunch, dinner, a movie or whatever and just catch up and laugh about your memories.
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