Looking at the recent news conference of the Gov. of New York, you can't help but feel sorry for his wife. Although it might be the last thing I do in the marriage, I think I'd stand beside him too. Then when cameras were off, we'd get to some serious discussion and to a lawyer. What do you think you'd do? I don't know if there are kids involved in this, I think there are. That would be my motivation to being nice and trying to move the controversy along. To not only have a cheating husband but one caught by the FBI is really, really a stinky situation.
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.
They have three teenage
They have three teenage daughters, and I absolutely would not stand up at a news conference with him. I think she has a responsibility to her daughters to show them she's not going to play the political game - that he not only shamed his family, but the entire state of New York.
sure, fine, whatever
CNN interviewed Mrs.
CNN interviewed Mrs. MacGreevey -- her husband did the same thing when he was Governor of NJ, and asked her why she stood up with him. She said that she wanted her daughter to understand, some day, that when someone you love does something wrong, you should support him as he faces the consequences.
Personally, I think this is the perfect opportunity to dig out that T-shirt that says, "I'm with Stupid".
Sadly, people cheat, and probably more often than we'd like to think. Some spouses forgive, and some, I know, even tolerate it. I'm not going to, because my Mom told my better half that, if I did, she'd forgive me being shot.
But, back to being stupid: a $2,000 call girl? Paying for her to cross state lines? Registering at the hotel under a false name? Paying in advance for a future trip?
Forget the cheating; divorce him for being really dumb.
I would not support him. As
I would not support him. As far as i am concerned, he would be on his own to deal with facing the public.
This man was not thinking of his wife when he was doing this...he was only thinking of himself. So why would I support him now? All of the sudden he would need me to play the political game for him? Puh-lease.....he'd be on his own.
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I can certainly see both
I can certainly see both sides of the barrel with this. I honestly don't think that I could muster up enough strength to appear on TV to "stand by my man." I know that she thinks by doing this, she is making a strong front for her daughters but aren't they like 15, 17, & 19?? I knew by those ages what cheating was and I don't know if I would respect my mother for acting like this was no big deal (or at least appearing to make it look that way). I think if anything I would have wrote a statement simply stating that my first concerns are for the well-being of my children and that we stand together as a family unit in getting through this matter. Then I'd call a lawyer and prepare to file for a divorce.
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Sorry but these women that
Sorry but these women that stand by their cheating husbands are weak and insecure. There is probably a financial incentive as well in staying which is why many do.
As far as Spitzer, reports say he wanted unprotected sex with this prostitute. Is he nuts? He must be wanting to catch AIDS or another STD and bring it home to his wife. That would have been the dealbreaker with me. He obviously has little concern for the health of his wife.
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I think you are being a
I think you are being a little harsh. How do you know they are weak and insecure? To the contrary, I think you'd have to be pretty strong to do it. I've told my husband he cheats and he's out, that's all I'd need to know. But I wouldn't want our private lives to be public fodder. I'd want the camera's off us asap, not because I was weak or insecure, but because it is no one else's business and if others loose interest because I don't SEEM to be bothered, that is fine. When it is back to the two of us alone in private I will have my say and then sign the papers and get my half of everything and move on. No weakness or insecurity, just a protection of my and my family's business.
At least that is what I think, I hope to never be in those shoes.
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.
I'd go further and say that
I'd go further and say that this woman, who knows the political game, is the furthest from being weak and insecure. We really don't know anything, do we, besides the fact that he's a stupid, selfish (stupid) jerk? I'm pretty sure she's got lawyers, and she's evaluating her options. So what if she plays her role (it might even be a condition of a pre-nup)?
I so agree with not-the
I so agree with not-the -mama and lovemy4 -
I think what she did shows great strength....
I would stand by my husband...and when the public eye wasn't looking...we would do our buisness.
I would hope my husband never cheats on me.However he is human and the reality is you never know what life is going to bring you.
If it did happen I would hope I would have enough dignity to be respectful towards him.Not for him, but for myself.And for my child.
This question can be
This question can be answered with one word: MONEY
That's the reason these women stick around in cases like this. Or else, they would be out of there lickity split!
I would not stand by him.
I would not stand by him. He knew what he was doing was wrong, so why should I support that behaivor. This country and/or state need stronger women. She has a duty to her daughters to teach them that this behaivor is not acceptable.
Also to teach them not to be a door mat. I don't care that it's becoming more common, it's wrong. What happen to the vows of, "for better or worse....for richer for poorer..." They vows used to mean something. I am disappointed in the governer, the previous president and so forth.
I'm sorry but it shows more
I'm sorry but it shows more strength to walk away from a bad situation than to stand up with a man who has showed you (and the entire world) how much he values you and your family.
My husband and I had a lengthy discussion about cheating before we got married and it is a deal breaker for both of us. Once someone learns that you will put up with their cr.ap, you become fair game for them to abuse as they see fit.
If I were her, I'd tell him since he wanted to be with the hooker so badly, he can pack his stuff and move in with her!
It is better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for what you are not.
He has showed the entire
He has showed the entire world what an idiot HE is, not how much he values his family. I hope his family doesn't think his bad decisions have anything to do with them, or how he feels about them. His wife is a Harvard educated lawyer I think, I bet she has his testicals in her purse now (or she should), but it is no one else's business and if standing by him helps the scandal move along, I still think I'd do it too.
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.