Something I've started in my house (within the past year and at the behest of my mother) are house rules. I'll be honest, my kids know the rules, verbatim, better than I do, but here goes:
1. Be nice.
2. Never give up.
3. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
4. Finish what you start.
5. Anything you do, always do it right.
The list is ever-growing; the kids tend to ask me about Rule 6 and my reply is along the lines "when there's a need for a rule 6, there will be a rule 6." So, here's the question for ya'll: what are the rules of your house(s)?
When you're sick and tired of being sick and tired, you'll do something to change it.
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6. be grateful for what you
6. be grateful for what you have
7. be glad you have a sister (or brother)
8. Be respectful of others
H~
Mom of 2 Daughters - Kelly (3 yrs) and Skylar (21 mos old)
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Your rules are some great
Your rules are some great ones. When I was growing up, my mom used #3 and we knew to follow it. Plus, another rule as a child was, if it is not a toy, don't play with it.
In my home, respect and manners will be one for sure. This will be one way to really get in trouble if not followed in my home. My husband and I are biggies on using the words "please" and 'thank you."
One Happy Mom in Arizona.
HAHA! That was one thing I
HAHA!
That was one thing I forgot to mention. One of my three once said "daddy, you should make that a rule" about saying "please" and "thank you." My response was along the lines of it being a given and should never, ever need reminding; you just do it.
When you're sick and tired of being sick and tired, you'll do something to change it.
http://www.aunyx.net
Our rules are more along the
Our rules are more along the lines of
1) Clean up after yourself.
2) Screaming is for emergencies ONLY.
3) The house is not a playground -- but the backyard is! Make your play plans accordingly.
4) Put things back where you found them.
6) Everyone eats together, and no one leaves the table until everone is done.
7) Proper English at the table, and of course "please" and "thank you."
8) When in doubt, ASK FIRST!
That sort of thing. They've worked for us more or less over the past 15 years!
New to AZ --- and missing autumn leaves and the smell of apple orchards!
Do unto others as you would
Do unto others as you would want done to you.
Kid words - Treat others the way you want to be treated.
I like your house rules - great idea. We have them, but not like this. This will be a nice summer day project.
Thanks!
KarilouMomof2 is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com living in Tempe. Her daughters are 9 and 6.
Mostly the same... If you
Mostly the same...
If you disagree, start your sentence with "actually", rather than , "uht ah!"
Share - everything belongs to everyone: we're a family
Use "gentle teaching words" (esp with your little brother) (speak the way your teacher speaks to you)
No quitting or giving up, on anything, at any time
If you make a bad choice, make it right (apologize, help the person)
HANDS TO YOURSELF - be a "diplomat" and use words to resolve your problems, instead of a "general" using physical force. (this one has sub-categories like, if there is more than one person in the couch, you must sit up, etc. LOL). If your words aren't working, after three tries, turn to the UN (Mommy and Daddy for reinforcement)
There are no "bad words", just words that make people feel bad - choose carefully. ANY word can be mean and it depends on how you say it. (i.e "you're a pillow-head" will earn a scolding, but "I HATE peas", won't)
And of course the usuals...please, thank you, clean up spills, put away what you take out, be respectful, etc. When my kids forget to say please or thank you, we say, "okay Attilla" (as in Attilla the Hun from Night At The Museum (and history...LOL)". This reminds them.
Other common expressions are:
"Does Mommy look busy or does mommy look bored?"
"How many hands does momy have? ("two")...how many things can mommy do at once? ("two")...how many minutes will you need to wait? ("two")...
"Would you like to control yourself, or would you like mommy to control you"?
"Get down/stop that/be careful...you might get hurt - you might not - but you might"
(this evolved because they could always point out the one time that they didn't get hurt doing XYZ - telling them this way, helped because it made them stop and think for a second, because I conceeded that they might be right, as I reminded them them that I also might be right. They weren't expecting me to conceed that, so it got their attention).
"Only a life lived for others, is the life worthwhile" - Albert Einstein
6. Share. There's plenty
6. Share. There's plenty to go around.
7. Feel free to make a mess, so long as you're willing to clean it up.
8. The more you torment your siblings, the better the chance that they will grow up to be bigger, stronger, and have more money than you do.
9. Always talk to God before you go to sleep, even if it's just "Thanks for today."
10. Say "please" and "thank you" whenever you ask someone to do something for you, even if it's his/her job.
And, finally, hug your Dad at least once a day.
Beyond the usual rules of a
Beyond the usual rules of a house, the most important rule in our is no one can ever say shut up to anyone. Actually, i'll amend that occasionally I say shut up to the dog whose bark drives me crazy.
sure, fine, whatever
My big one is no means
My big one is no means NO....wining about it gets you in trouble..and many of the ones already mentioned :)
**Whatever it is..Wrap it up in Love and the Possibilities are Endless**
In my house no means NO too.
In my house no means NO too.
I tend to say arguing with me may cause me to change my attitude but it wont cause me to change my mind.
I LOVE YOUR RULES!! and the
I LOVE YOUR RULES!! and the other ones people posted. I'll have to start some of my own. Thanks so much for sharing.
Brooke Romney is an unbalanced mom of three young boys who constantly has too much to do, and too little time. She writes the Mom Beat column for The Gilbert Republic.
Our number one rule is we
Our number one rule is we are a team!
Always do the right thing
Always do the right thing even if it is hard to do.
soccermom of a 12 yr old boy and 15 yr old young lady