My friend went to get a pedicure a few weeks ago and invited her friend along. Once they got there, they were chatting with each other but the one gal would interrupt the conversation every few minutes to read or send a text. She spent over half the time, reading texts, laughing at them, telling my friend about them (who didn't care), and answering them.
I'm not a big texter, but is that what people do now? If so, they shouldn't. I think it is so rude--especially when you are with a friend! What is your idea of texting ettiquette?
Brooke Romney is an unbalanced mom of three young boys who constantly has too much to do, and too little time. She writes the Mom Beat column for The Gilbert Republic.
I agree with you - if you
I agree with you - if you meet up with someone you want to hear their news not the news of some other friend, you want to know that they want to be there.
We were at Starbucks the other day and there were two ladies in front of us who we overheard saying "It's so great to see you. It feels like years since we've been able to meet up! I've been looking forward to this all week" and the like. When we sat down to have our drinks my daughter pointed out that both women were either on the phone or texting and they weren't actually talking to each other. When they left we heard them say "It was good to see you, we should do this more often, blah blah blah". It really made us wonder why they thought they were friends? But it did make us laugh and be thankful for our friends and family who dont treat us that way.
Totally agree with you.
Totally agree with you. Manners, who needs 'em?
Sad.
It is the same as
It is the same as interupting a conversation to start another with someone else. Emily Post would not approve I am sure of it!
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.
I agree - it's rude!
I agree - it's rude! Knowing me, i probably would have stopped talking and sat in the chair with my eyes closed and enjoyed the pedi.
just~me
yeah and i wonder if ppl do
yeah and i wonder if ppl do it in church
"dont pee on my leg and tell me its raining"
I hardly ever text at all
I hardly ever text at all and I find it really rude when somebody I am having a conversation with does it - I have actually taken my husbands phone away from him at dinner once or twice, so I think he finally gets the message (no pun intended)! I feel like I am finally getting old when I think about this, though. Am I becoming one of those cynical people who just can't "keep up with the times"?!?!
Kinder-Mommy is a kindergarten teacher and a mother of 2!
Rude, rude, rude. Ok ladies,
Rude, rude, rude. Ok ladies, let us make sure we are taking these moments to teach our children the right way to treat people.
I was at Costco a couple of months ago and the lady (loose term here) in front of me was on her cell phone. She got up to the counter and the employee asked her if she would like to finish up her call. The "lady" said that no she was fine.... The employee just stared at her amazed. When I got up there, we both just rolled our eyes and expressed amazement about how people can be so rude.
I can understand if you need to talk with someone and your time is so precious. Can't you tell the person - give me a min. and I will get back to you? Maybe step out of line (duh) and wait until your conversation is over.
Numerous times I have stepped off to the side waiting to get in line until my conversation is over. It is called being polite. Some people! (shaking my head)
KarilouMomof2 is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com living in Tempe. Her daughters are 9 and 6.
I have a good friend who I
I have a good friend who I harass all the time about her texting. We can be having a face-to-face conversation, and she'll take and send text messages during it. Now I've taken to getting up and walking away - to get a drink or go to the bathroom or throw something in the trash. And she says, "I know! I'm sorry!" But, of course, it doesn't stop her!
Yes, it's rude.
Karina Bland is raising her 9-year-old son in Tempe with a lot of love, humor and support from her friends and family. A longtime journalist covering child welfare and education issues for The Arizona Republic, she blogs about raising good kids.
I text a lot, but I don't do
I text a lot, but I don't do it in a rude way. I usually do it when I'm at work or I'm at the store and I'm tying up a loose end (plans with friends, husband for later that day) or if I don't want the whole world to hear something I'm asking someone else (in a store I'll text to see if my husband wants anything else). My husband will also text me to let me know if he got my daughter at the end of the day (he doesn't like to call and chat with me when I'm at work). Also, when I go out with friends, he'll text me if he goes to bed to tell me that he loves me and (gasp!) I'll text him back and wish him a good night. I don't do it to be rude but I do feel that a moment to check you messages (whether text, phone or email) is not a bad thing. I usually just excuse myself to the restroom and answer anything important.
I honestly prefer text over a phone call. I think it's incredibly rude to sit with friends or family or be in a store at a checkout stand on the phone and I try not to do any of these things including times I pick my daughter up from daycare or when I first get home, getting off the phone before I walk inside my house.
"It's not to late to become who you've always wanted to be..."
We don't text or answer
We don't text or answer phones while we are eating. But if I am out with a friend, I will occassionally text my hubby so that he knows I'm okay. ??
There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one!
I second this comment!!! I
I second this comment!!! I get infuriated with my hubby when he takes calls while we are eating or texts...it's completely rude. But like you summed up I like to text him when I'm with friends so he knows I'm ok!
"It's not to late to become who you've always wanted to be..."
same, here I text at work,
same, here I text at work, and when im out with others im not texting constantly but I do check in to see how my boyfriend is doing with our daughter and to let him know everything is ok.
I dont think it's rude to
I dont think it's rude to text occasionaly while you are out with someone. I do it myself. But I think the polite thing is to say "Excuse me for a minute please, I just need to check/reply to this text." I dont do it mid sentence, I wait for the person to finish what they are saying and I respond then excuse myself.
I think that's a lot different than just texting and not saying anything. Not excusing yourself first is like walking away from a person when they are mid sentence.
Like everything it's about common sense (though I often wonder why it's called that given that it doesnt seem to be very common) and balance.
I agree your friend's friend
I agree your friend's friend was rude. To carry on a conversation and ignore others you are with is completely against all ettiquette rules. What you saw from this friend was probably the tip of the iceberg of her lack of social grace.
soccermom of a 12 yr old boy and 15 yr old young lady