Hi there,
Would like to hear what the best strategies for me and my baby to encourage him to go to sleep independently. He is my first and only child and he's never cried for more than 1 minute without being consoled. Yes, he is spoiled! He is solely breast fed, but will use a straw & sippy cup between feedings. He does not take a pacifier or bottle. He is able to say "up" when he wants me to pick him up and will cry if I don't. I read something today that states after you put the child to bed and they cry, let them cry for 5 minutes, then check on them, but it didn't go into detail how long and often, ect before giving in and picking him up.....recommendations to achieve this milestone with the greatest ease for us both is greatly appreciated!
My 9 month old is extremely
My 9 month old is extremely spoiled as well...i pick him up immediately (bad, I know), but one thing I do when it's time for bed is that I don't talk to him anymore. I say kiss and hug him, say goodnight and then walk out. He usually occupies himself if he's not quite ready to sleep (chatting up a storm), but if he starts to crank, fuss or cry, I will go in and soothe him, rock him for a minute, rub his back etc, but NO TALKING.
It usually works. Now, I've done this since day 1, so if this is something you don't usually do, it might take some time for him to get used to it. Give it a try.
Good luck!
I totally know how you feel!
I totally know how you feel! i have 2 kids a 3 year old and a 7 month old. I let my 3 year old sleep with me every night for the past like 2 1/2 years because we lived with my mom and shared a room. Now that we don't and he has his own room i am having a heck of a time gettin him to sleep alone. When i had my daughter my husband and i vowed to not do the same thing with her. I developed a routine. A simple rountine that I can stick to even when my day has gotten away from me. I start it at about 7:30 after dinner(depending on what time you want them to go to sleep) with a warm bath with this lavender aveeno bath it is to help ease kids off to sleep, kinda like aromo therapy. Then i rube her down with some lavender aveeno lotion. After i take her room, full and clean, read her a story while rocking her then i just lay her in her crib and she drifts off to sleep. at first she didn't like it but i told my self that it was best for her and i. when she would cry i would just go to my room and turn my end of the baby moniter down real low so i couldn't hear her cry, kinda like an outta sight outta mind kinda thing. It probably took 4 or 5 days before she didn't cry anymore. you just have to stick to the routine. She seems to get a better sleep when she sleeps alone and i know i feel way more rested when i am able to sleep with my hubby alone. Now bed time is so much easier for everyone!
Google the Ferber Method...
Google the Ferber Method... it works and is what you were suggesting, increasing the time between visits to lay your baby back down when you want to encourage self soothing. I did it when my son was 6 months and he usually goes to bed on his own when I put him in his crib... occasionally I still have to go lay him down a few times. good luck!
My son is a ball of energy and I LOVE it!
The Ferber method is good.
The Ferber method is good. I'd also strongly recommend a book that has different sleeping strategies for different ages. It's called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" and is written by Marc Weissbluth, M.D. It got me through some difficult stages with my kids. Good luck!
Lattemom is the mother of three energetic kids ages 6, 8 & 12 and a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com.
Hello. My daughter is 10
Hello. My daughter is 10 months old now and she slept with/on me for the first 6 months! She is my first and only child so I did not want to give up that time. I started to get her into her own bed by having her sleep in the porta crib next to my bed and once she was doing that all night 9and when I was able to sleep w/o her) then I moved her into her own room in her crib. I made sure to get a good night time routine, for us its dinner then a bath then I take her into my room with the lights dim and feed her (I was nursing, but its a bottle now and she had no problems transitioning). She knows that when we go into the bedroom that its bed time. That is our alone time together :) if she does not fall asleep while eating then I burp her and put her in her crib. Sometimes she cries for a few mins but usually she just babbles and then falls asleep.I have noticed that she sleeps better when she is alone now. Good luck!
~Kerry & Mckenzie
I would try to lay him down
I would try to lay him down and let him cry for a bit. He needs to get use to something. The older he gets, the harder it will be on everyone. good luck
There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one!
When my babies were little I
When my babies were little I read the book Babywise. It worked great for us and both my daughters were and still are excellent sleepers.
Also, check out http://www.lifesculpting.biz/
They offer a family program there with a series of classes about infants. One of them is called Sleeping Through the NIght.
It is in Chandler at Alma School and Chandler Heights in the Safeway shopping center.
He will learn to sleep on
He will learn to sleep on his own but you have to let him figure out how. The longer you wait, the harder it will be because he is getting set in his ways. You will have to let him cry it out so he figures out what he needs to do.
soccermom of a 12 yr old boy and 15 yr old young lady