Hi, looking to see how many of you are raising your grandchildren. We are raising our two grandsons they are 16 & 17. We have had them for 10 years. These teen years are hard. Would love to chat with anyone in the same position.
Sherry
Hi, looking to see how many of you are raising your grandchildren. We are raising our two grandsons they are 16 & 17. We have had them for 10 years. These teen years are hard. Would love to chat with anyone in the same position.
Sherry
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I am not there yet, but I
I am not there yet, but I look forward to all the knowledge you have to share. I will keep checking back for what others are saying. Bless you for your hard work and good luck!!
KarilouMomof2 is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com living in Tempe. Her daughters are 9 and 6.
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Just wanted to say I commend
Just wanted to say I commend you for stepping up and taking up such great responsibility. I'm sure it is very hard but you do it out of love. I'm sure you are a great grandmother (mother) to your grandchildren, I hope you find the support you need especially during these trying teen years.
It is so much harder raising
It is so much harder raising grandchildren than my own children. The times have changed so much. My husband and I are older and the boys find it restrictive because we still require a lot of things that many of their freind's parents just let them do. Things like knowing where they are going to be and checking in every two hours, knowing the parents... things that seem like a no brainer to us. Then the talking back... that is a real problem especially with our 16 yr old. But they are great boys and Grandma is not alway as patient as she should be. lol
And then the factor of having to be a disciplinarian when you area grandmother. That is the hardest. But we are getting there and wouldn't trade a moment with them.
Shery
Not a grandparent, but the
Not a grandparent, but the "love and logic" program has worked well for my pre-teen.
We took a class on it, but there are a lot of materials available through their website. I think there was something specifically for grandparents.
it's: www.loveandlogic.com
The basic idea is that you let kids make their own choices when the consequence isn't too great. And let them deal with the consequences of their actions. Then (ideally) when they are in a situation to make an important decision, they will do the right thing.
My 12 year old is oppositional by nature...this has made a world of difference for us. So much of the conflict is gone.
Good luck...