I am a first time mom, 25. It seems as though I have done something wrong. We try everything to get our son to listen to us and he wont listen to me or his daddy. My aunt watches him during the day while I work and he is a little angel for her. She doenst yell at him and rarely has to put him in time out. As soon as i walk into the house to pick him up, he starts whining and screaming. He is like this all night. I try putting him in time out, I have tried playing with him to change his direction, I have even tried giving him everything he wants just to get him to stop whining, that hasnt even worked. Has anyone else ever experienced this?? Can anyone offer some suggestions?
You know they call this time
You know they call this time the terrible twos, some twos are more terrible than others. Just keep being patient and consistant. I've been through it twice and I have 2 almost 2 year olds and I can see it coming... I'll try to remember my own advice. Good luck. Reciting the Serendity Prayer may help and knowing that one day this stage will be over...
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.
Just wait until he turns
Just wait until he turns 3...it only gets worse before it gets better. My son is almost 4. I wouldnt worry to much , just do your best and he'll get through it...and so will you.
kids often act different for
kids often act different for the babysitter. Better or worse. He may be tired at the end of the day and hungry and all the bad behavior just comes out. Or maybe he realizes the babysitter isn't you, and is just on his best behavior all day, and then when he sees you, he can relax and let all his nervous energy out. I would talk with the babysitter, just to make sure you are treating the same transgressions the same way (for example, if she thinks it's funny when he blows bubbles in his milk, and laughs, but you feel it's a disgusting habit to get into and give him a timeout, just as an example). Just to make sure you're not sending him mixed signals. How is he all day when your Aunt isn't watching him?
I think your situation is
I think your situation is very common! Children are often better for others (babysitters, friends parents, grandma) than they are for their parents! Your son knows you - and loves you - better than he knows and loves anyone else in the world. You are who he can whine at, cry on, and yell at (just like we do to our husbands!) and you will still love him - and he knows that. And, as someone else commented, you are getting him at the toughest time of day, when he's tired and hungry. I'm sorry I don't have any advice, but I wanted to try to reassure you that it doesn't seem like you have done anything wrong!