I posted on here yesterday about how my son got in trouble for pushing someone and he was apparently pushed by someone else but he got in trouble. Well last night he told me what kind of shoes the little girl was wearing and what her name was. So, I dropped off my son at his classroom, I hang around for like 5 minutes or so. The little girl he described sits right next to him. I was just casually sitting there watching the two of them. The little girl was giving him dirty looks. Anyways, so I told his teacher if she could keep an eye on her and him today. I explained to her what he told me and she said to let my son know that he needs to bring it to her attention if someone pushes him. When I left I whispered to my son if she gives him dirty looks just don't look at her, ignore her. Also, I told him if she pushes him or anyone pushes him, tell his teacher immediately. I also encountered something else this morning in the classroom, there was little girl crying and screaming because she did not want to stay in the classroom. Apparently something happened yesterday where it took her 3 hrs to finish some classroom work. So, I think maybe the little girl sensed the teacher was mad because she took so long to do the school work? Also, the teacher was telling her assistant that it shouldn't take her that long to do it..ect ect.. so anyways, I thought that was interesting. I am going to be keeping a close on my son.
I applaude you for taking
I applaude you for taking the time to observe the dynamics in your son's classroom. I like the idea of his teacher suggesting that your son go to her with complaints of physical aggression however, why didn't she take the initiative to find out why he hit the little girl when it happened?
These things have to be resolved between the two children involved or "attitudes" and "anger" festers. This does not sound like a healthy environment. A child upset from something that occured yesterday needs to be consoled, heard and if need be, taken out of the classroom to a safe haven to express her hurt feelings. "Talked about" in front of others is shaming.
And what about the assistant teachers on the yard who are supposed to be monitoring the children's behavior? Perhaps a conference is in order.
Warmest regards - Jan
Jan Katzen-Luchenta
Nutritional therapist - www.iluminahealing.com - Montessori educator - www.nutritionforlearning.com
I really hope that the
I really hope that the teacher isn't saying that kind of stuff in front of the kids. From personal experience having a math phobia (thanks to my step mom telling me I should be able to do this, why can't I while sitting in front of flash cards making fun of me) causes extremely low self confidence, and even worse in trying to grasp concepts that they maybe should. There are somethings that can't be rushed. Poor little kid.
Lisa - Mom to her spunky little Scarlette
I get where you're coming
I get where you're coming from, but I also think that the adults are over-involved.
Push me, push you back, and dirty looks? If nobody's whipping out a switchblade or and Uzi, I say let the kids work it out. She's probably crushing on him.
I have sympathy for some
I have sympathy for some teachers, they don't get paid enough, and not only do they have to deal with kids, but they have to deal with parents, who won't accept that thier prince/princess can do wrong and make bad choices..
They are kids, just because a kid makes a wrong choice doesn't mean they are bad or are going to be bad all the time or the rest of their life but. Only if ithey have parent coming to their rescue and making excuses and blaming others all the time..
this is the first week of school. Boy did you just put a lable on your child.
" just my Opinion" LOL
I agree. Nobody's hurt, all
I agree. Nobody's hurt, all eyeballs are intact. Let the kids work it out.
Also, don't get too riled up about what you witnessed in the morning classroom. Mornings are chaotic, ask the teacher if she could use a class volunteer. Maybe once you get to view a greater segment of the day you might discover she is a good teacher.
I am sure they will work it
I am sure they will work it out too. I will just pay close attention to what my son tells me. No one likes to be picked on so hopefully it will all be okay.
Remember that these kids
Remember that these kids have been home with mom. It takes time for them to adapt to the schedule, requirements, and expectations. The little girl crying is probably just not use to meeting the requirements such as completing class assigments. In time, the kids struggling will all become responsible just like the others.
I think you are wrong about the little girl sensing the teacher being mad. The little girl probably senses that if she don't do her class assigments, then she will have consequences.
The teacher is right about saying it shouldn't take her that long. Some kids just sit and play with the pencil, stare at the wall, etc.
When you have 25 students doing what they are suppose to be doing, and 1 student not doing it, then the teacher is going to come down on her a little tougher. How do you think a teacher gains control of a classroom and keeps it?
One Happy Mom in Arizona.
Taking control of a
Taking control of a classroom? That's a piece of cake. You just have to be the grownup, and know the kids by name. There's no need to be a big green meanie. Most of the time, I've been able to to just put on my unhappy face and call a kid by name.
I think that, unless it's a huge deal, the teacher shouldn't bring in the parents to deal with a behavior issue. Not doing that builds trust between the teacher and the student, and the student is much more likely to behave well.
Kids make mistakes -- they're supposed to. Adults are supposed to help them learn from their mistakes, so that they can become good people.
Well I know they are just
Well I know they are just kids and they are adapting to this new environment. I just want to know that when my son is there that he is being taken care of. I don't expect anything less.