On the way in to work today I was listening to this story in total shock.
http://www.newschannel5.com/Global/story.asp?S=8467667
My first thought was the father WAS neglegent if the burn was that bad. Then I heard some other disturbing things that made me wonder if the mother wasn't also. From what this story states the burns were CLEARLY noticable and even were blistering but rather then take her child to get immediate medical attention, she took him to the police department to file charges. At that moment I wondered what her motives really were. I guess from a more indepth background check, the couple was going through an angry and bitter divorce and it almost seems like the mother did this out of spite rather than concern. My rational thinking was "If she was so concerned about the burns, why didn't she get medical attention for her child, and call the police while she was in the hospital." Which then also made me think, "She could have been so upset that she lost rational sense and just carted him to the police without thinking that a hospital might have been a better choice." But does that excuse her obvious neglect with getting him medical care? If you could get a dig on the soon to be ex husband would you take it? Just curious what would go through other mom's minds.
"It's not to late to become who you've always wanted to be..."
It definately seems it was
It definately seems it was done out of spite. It seems they both were in the wrong at some point. I would not do anything out of spite to my daughter's father or my husband if we split up. I wouldn't want them to do anything to me so I wouldn't do anything to them. But... if I feel my daughter is neglected or anything, of course I would do something about it. But not out of spite. My mother did that with my father, and still to this day a part of me resents her for it. I definately would not like my daughters to resent me. I am trying to be the best mother I can. I see me and my ex as parents, not as the "ex".
There is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one!
I read about this story
I read about this story yesterday. It infuriates me that the child was so obviously used as a pawn. What mother would take her child to the police department before seeking medical attention? And ER docs are trained to seek police assistance in cases of neglect or abuse. That poor kid must have been miserable at the police station - dehydrated, in pain and burning! Not to mention he was probably scared to death. Divorces are never fun, and it's always the kids who are stuck in the middle. :(
Nothing like using your kids
Nothing like using your kids as a pawn in a divorce. Totally uncalled for!!
Lisa - Mom to her spunky little Scarlette
I would be very upset if my
I would be very upset if my child came home like that..i would ask that the father came to the hospital with me and put everything in his name, paid for it all, it was his mistake. Not only that but if the hospital did call the police i would want him there for the questioning.
Sunscreen is just common sence..so sad the whole thing could have been avoided. Sounds like she was using the child to get back at him. Poor little guy.
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Totally not fair. I had a
Totally not fair. I had a sunburn that bad when I was younger, but I knew better to put sunscreen and just didn't. I can only imagine what that poor little guy is going through.
The day our first children are born; our lives change for the better. We are obliged as parents to put ourselves secondary. This includes just about everything including our emotions. Divorce is such a grown up problem its not fair that kids should be subjected to it's in's and outs. Totally not fair to the kids. I'm lucky if I get time to pluck my eyebrows!! Why? Because my child, and future children will always be the first in my everyday. It's exausting, but I wouldn't change it for anything!! It's like a whole new kind of fun if you ask me. My daughter is a hoot so I'd rather hang out with her than pluck my eyebrows any day. I'll just have to get to it when I'm not exausted :-)
Ok I'm getting off of my soapbox now!!
Lisa - Mom to her spunky little Scarlette
Quote: "If you could get a
Quote:
"If you could get a dig on the soon to be ex husband would you take it?"
I wouldn't...I'd sure want to...but, I wouldn't. That's what my imagination is for.
I'm never going to cure cancer, or immortalize myself in a big, Hollywood feature. The impact that I can have is to live by a standard, a code of ethics, to always do the right thing. I believe in the Steven Covey philosophy of "start with the end". I imagine what I would want said about me at my funeral. I want the place packed with people among whom, not one could say that I acted unkindly, selfishly, manipulatively or unethically.
It is so sad to see "parents" act this way.
A friend of a friend of mine, got divorced years ago. She and her ex-husband, both "moved in" with their respective families, alternating 3 and 4 days days a week. So the kids never had to move. The kids stayed in their home, with all of their toys, clothes and friends and never had to pack a suitcase and sleep in an unfamiliar room. The Dad came "home" Mon-Wen and then Mom came "home" Thurs-Sun. The next week, they switched the middle day. In many ways, it was no different than a home where parents work opposite shifts. The kids thrived. It would have been nice if they could have worked out their differences, but at least they dedicated themselves to ensuring that their problems would not impact the kids greatly.
"Only a life lived for others, is the life worthwhile" - Albert Einstein
Quote: "If you could get a
Quote:
"If you could get a dig on the soon to be ex husband would you take it?"
Your Quote:
"I wouldn't...I'd sure want to...but, I wouldn't. That's what my imagination is for."
That's funny :) ...
I know I can freak out and totally flip out sometimes but I am relieved that I've never EVER done anything like this to an ex and more importantly to my child. I sure have imagined though some things!!! I could understand her being upset completely but I also am curious what the police thought when she toted her child all red and blistered into the department rather than a medical facility. I wonder what their course of action is when something like this happens too (the story didn't say anything about them advising her to take immediately to a medical facility and file charges there)? It was just shocking to me that she was so concerned with her son's well being that instead of rushing to a hospital she took him to a police station. Hmmm...
"It's not to late to become who you've always wanted to be..."
If I were in that situation,
If I were in that situation, no matter how mad I was at my ex or soon-to-be ex, I could never use my children as pawns to get back at him especially when it deals with my children's health. Maybe they need to look at charging the mother as well.
jesshod is a mommy to 2 girls (ages 6 and 1) and is an arizonamoms.com discussion leader living in Surprise.
I know that when I am going
I know that when I am going through something stressful it is hard to take my mind off of it. Maybe one of the first things on her mind were "My son got burnt this badly in his care and I need to make sure that doesn't happen again." I think it is clouded judgement that made her go to the police first. I mean if you were inthat situation I am sure you would like to think that you would be able to handle it the right way, but sometimes stress and other things get in the way of rational thinking. Who knows what she was actually thinking.
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I know that when I am going
I know that when I am going through something stressful it is hard to take my mind off of it. Maybe one of the first things on her mind were "My son got burnt this badly in his care and I need to make sure that doesn't happen again." I think it is clouded judgement that made her go to the police first. I mean if you were inthat situation I am sure you would like to think that you would be able to handle it the right way, but sometimes stress and other things get in the way of rational thinking. Who knows what she was actually thinking.
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