Apparently the pregnant man gave birth on Sunday.
http://www.abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=5302756&page=1
I never really understood the hype about the pregnant man. Why all the craziness about a transgender individual having a kid? He may have chosen to change his gender to a man, but his sex is still female. (For reference, gender is typically considered to be man/woman and sex is male/female.)
So I guess I just don't get it. A biological woman, living as a man, choosing to have a baby as many other women do. I don't know, maybe all the hoopla is because he identifies as a man and expects others to see him/accept him as that and the idea of a man being pregnant is radical (even though he's biologically a female)? Or maybe transgender people don't have biological kids that often?
Idk. My feelings on this are in no way malicious, I'm just sort of neutral. Maybe that's ignorant of me, but there you go.
Thoughts, ladies?
I agree..it's stupid. The
I agree..it's stupid. The pregnant "man" is a FEMALE...it's not a pregnant male! Why the news organizations continue to write that is beyond me. Sensational headlines, that's all.
"Only a life lived for others, is the life worthwhile" - Albert Einstein
I certainly don't think it's
I certainly don't think it's wrong; he wanted to have a child, and he had the equipment to do it.
It's rare, at least from the people I've talked to, for transgendered people to keep all the parts they're born with, so the only ones I know with biological children had them before they started the process.
I don't think its wrong but
I don't think its wrong but I do think allowing the media to hype it in the manner it was hyped "man having baby, etc" was wrong. He may not have had control over the media but I did see pictures that were posed and staged.
I hope with the birth of the child there is not a birth of a reality show, at least not until the child can have a say-so.
For me, I think the shock
For me, I think the shock comes from the fact that looking at him, without knowing he is a transgender, he is a man...a somewhat masculine man with masculine features who is CARRYING A BABY! It's not like the bearded lady from the state fair is knocked up....he is living his life as a man, and seeing a man pregnant is somewhat shocking.
I think that's where all the hype comes from...that, and OPRAH of course! ha!
Oprah, LOL - we must have
Oprah, LOL - we must have posted at the same time. ;0)
The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.
~ Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)
Seriously though...Oprah and
Seriously though...Oprah and hype go hand and hand! It's ridiculous!!!
LOL!
I agree!
I agree!
The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.
~ Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)
I find it odd that the news
I find it odd that the news (and Oprah - she had him on too) is making such a big deal out of this.
He is a transgender who chose to to keep the female reproductive organs knowing one day he would want to have a child. I don't see anything wrong with this, just not sure why it news.....but this is not the only headline out there today that is being considered news that i really am not sure why it's news worthy. But maybe thats just me.
The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.
~ Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)
My feelings are that the
My feelings are that the reason it's being written about and causing such a stir is because he is calling himself a "pregnant man". The media didn't even know about "him" until "he" came forth to tell his story.
I really don't understand why if he feels he's a man and had his breasts removed and took testosterone shots and grew a penis (his words), why did he not complete the "transformation". His reasoning, he says, is because he wanted biological children. If that is true why not freeze the eggs? The surgery he did is by no means cheep so I'm sure egg freezing could have been worked in there.
I really feel that this will be a confusing and hurtful thing to his daughter as she grows. Unfortunately people are cruel and by not remaining private everyone will now know their business and feel they can comment. She will eventually be hurt by this very public matter instead of having a private family matter and I'm not saying keep it a secret. She could have been told age appropriate things along the way as she was ready emotionally.
As AdrienneL said I am not being malicious, I'm just curious about the motivating principle and that's it. I did also hear him on Oprah and what he said about his story and his reasons just didn’t really add up….
bookworm_mom ~ mommy of twins
"He" had his breasts
"He" had his breasts removed, knowing that "he" wanted biological children? So there was no ATTEMPT to give his child the best start in life, with breastmilk? I've known women who considered breast surgery or augmentation, but specifically chose to wait until after bearing children, in order to put their child's need first.
If "he" didn't want to nurse because he felt is was too "womanly"...I wonder how "manly" he felt in those stirrups?
I detest anyone who INTENTIONALLY seeks notoriety.
"Only a life lived for others, is the life worthwhile" - Albert Einstein
I get what you and Bookworm
I get what you and Bookworm are saying. There is, of course, the person who craves his 15 minutes of fame. He'll probably live to regret that. I'm not best friends with the transgender community here. One of the benefits of age and experience is that I think that acceptance will come as we reinforce our similarities -- rather than publically expose our differences. I've gotten some pretty dramatic angry emails and flames about my approach.
Of course, I'm not anti-transgendered. Truthfully, I don't get it, but that doesn't mean that it's bad or wrong; I just haven't ever clicked with a transgendered person to the degree that we could find much common ground.
We're still a little leary of female preschool teachers supervising 3-4 year-old boys in the bathroom, and a little freaked about male preschool teachers doing the same (especially with girls). It's not a sex thing, it's a heath thing and a development thing.
The one thing that is for sure is that 98% of adults who take an interest in children is not icky. The other 2%, if we pay attention, we can (I think) punch in the nose with impunity.
i see your point about
i see your point about giving your child the "best start in life, with breastmilk". I cannot tell you how long and hard i tried to breast feed and pump and nothing. Or how many times the lactation nurse came to my room and how many things we tried. I think once my daughter did get a drop of breast milk, but that was about it.
I also know a woman who has 3 kids and the thought of breast feeding her kids made her uncomfortable. Why did it make her uncomfortable? I have no idea and yes, i did find that a bit odd. But i guess that was her choice. So she had the parts and never even attempted to breast feed any of her children.
The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.
~ Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)
I understand how hard
I understand how hard breastfeeding is, because I went to extreme lengths myself (hired a concierge service to run ,ilk home twice a day, because I was only one feeding ahead!...etc.). I was commenting on the fact that "he" didn't even seem to think that was of any importance in deciding to get pregnant. And I don't REALLY fault someone who doesn't try...I just think that it's too bad. MANY things in life make us uncomfortable - that doesn't mean we shouldn't TRY to overcome irrational discomfort, esp when there is so much to be gained from that effort. I had a friend who refused to try breastfeeding because she said that her husband told her "those are mine", refering to her breasts. sigh. When it comes to that news story, I just have a natural repulsion to attention seekers.
"Only a life lived for others, is the life worthwhile" - Albert Einstein
I am not sure why they chose
I am not sure why they chose to go public with the pregnancy. Personally, i would like to see them stay out of the spotlight and focus on raising their daughter. Not because i see anything wrong with what they did, but because they have someone else in their lives to think about now who should be their priority - but i think this of all parents.
I use to work with a transgender who went from male to female and in all honesty, her to sons were taking it extremely hard. Will this instance be different because the little girl will always know the person who gave birth to her as "dad", i don't know. But i would hope they deal with things privately for the sake of their little girl. And when she is old enough to understand everything completely and at that time they choose to go public again, then thats fine in my eyes. But my suggestions would be to wait until she is at least 18 years of age to make any more appearances or headlines. I feel this way not only in this case, but other cases too where children are involved and BAM the spotlights on the kids.
The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.
~ Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)
News headlines sell papers
News headlines sell papers and he/she is just looking for attention and to cash in. I don't get it either.
soccermom of a 12 yr old boy and 15 yr old young lady