Wow. I feel like someone thru me under the bus, big time. did anyone read the line 'I feel guilty putting her in her crib for any long length of time.' I do not leave her in there often, I am a working mom sometimes I need a nap. As far as TV we are talking educational, like Einsteins for example. I am also very well educated when it comes to the care of my child. I know what toys are harmful or inappropriate. I posted blog as I wanted an opinion, I do not leave her in there often, anytime other then sleep time i feel is just right. It really made me sad that most of the responses to my blog were so negative.
We read together, we color together, we talk together, we speak our own gibberish.
I didnt know I had to validate myself.
Happy Wife. Happy Mother to Ashley 11/14/87 and Izabel 11/3/06
Sorry you felt attacked.
Sorry you felt attacked. There were some good points to consider, though, so I think your post will be helpful to you if you filter through the negative stuff. Remember you can choose to use or ignore ant advice given.
Have you tried bringing her into the shower with you? My kids play in the water while I shower, so it works great (I started both my kids in the shower by the time they could sit up by themselves).
Have you tried napping when she naps, either with her (you can have special cuddle time) or separately? I've napped with my kids a lot, especially since my second was born. You also may be able to nap while she plays in the room with you, if it's baby-proofed sufficiently.
With regards to TV, even educational TV should be limited. New research suggests that attention problems can develop with TV viewing, which is why the American Academy of Pediatrics recommend no TV watching for children under age 2, That said, sometimes TV is the only way moms and dads can keep their sanity and get something done around the house: it sounds like you're mindful of what she watches and how much.
The fact that you said you felt guilty using the crib suggests to me you're looking for other alternatives. I hope I was able to help.
Allison
Mom to Talia (10/03) and Trip (3/07)
thank you! As I posted on
thank you! As I posted on other blog, there are so many ways to respond both respectfully and constructively. I will continue to use AZmoms and post because I have found it to be so informative. I am alot older with this child, my 1st daughter is 20, they are 19yrs apart almost to the day. With my 1st daughter she had a playpen and a bassinet. When I would shower, with my 1st baby (as well as my 2nd) I would bring the bassinet into bathroom. I didnt want to post that I have taken baths with both my babies, for fear that someone would remark negatively to that, go figure they remarked on everything else with negative comments. aww well. Thank you, I feel alot better!!! Have a great day!
Dee,
mom to Ashley 11/14/87 and Izabel 11/3/06.
Happy Wife. Happy Mother to Ashley 11/14/87 and Izabel 11/3/06
I am sorry that you felt
I am sorry that you felt they way you did. I actually didn't respond to your original question because I could not believe that you would ask for any sort of advice or comments and it angered me to see that instead of anything helpful I felt you were being banished for even considering putting her in the crib for certain reasons. I am a working mom as well and sometimes I need to take a shower and put my child in the crib. I don't always have time to take it when my husband is home as he works alot as well and sometimes a shower is really the only break I get. I don't think that you should feel bad for the limited time that you may have to put her in there if necessary. Sadly this makes me think twice about asking certain questions thinking I will get the same reaction.
Some people will be
Some people will be negative, but you can choose to ignore it. There are more positive people around, though, so post away!
Allison
Mom to Talia (10/03) and Trip (3/07)
Glad you're feeling better,
Glad you're feeling better, and I'm glad you'll keep coming back to this site. It's hard not to let other's comments affect you, but remember, they don't even know you! So try not to take it too personally. Also, I think things can come across really harsh in the written word even when it's not intended. Thanks for letting everyone know that they hurt you. It took courage to say that, and hopefully it will make people think a little more about how they express their opinions.
Hobbymommy, 38, is a discussion leader from Mesa. She is a happy stay-at-home mommy to a 3-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son.
Even some of the baby
Even some of the baby experts say it's ok to put your baby in a crib to play for a short time if there are safe things to play with. If you feel it's safe and your baby is happy, then it's OK.
I didn't read what exactly
I didn't read what exactly happened. I just agree that we should all be respectful of each others opinions. We all love our children and are trying to the best for them the best we can. As moms that is why this board is here for support not bashing.
My kids stay in the crib
My kids stay in the crib after their nap for as long as they are happy (or we need to do something). I don't rush in to change their mood or location unless they've worn out their time there. I think your example is in the same vain...
you're an experienced Mom, some of the other comments may have come from first time Moms, and we know it is more intense for the first one. (at least it was for me, if I remember correctly.) Have a good day!
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.