My husband received a phone call from his ex today, and she told him that their son (my step son) has been diagnosed with short term memory loss. He is 11 years old. He is having some issues in school with in class work and problems at home. They live in another state so we see him over Christmas break, spring break and summer break, and have not had any issues with him, besides the normal sibling rivalry.
Of course my husband doesn't ask very many questions, so I Googled it and found some interesting information and concerns too.
My question's are if any one has had their child diagnosed with this? What are symptoms you had with your child? Would it be wrong of me to call her directly and ask her questions? We get along fine. I don't want to offend her either.
Thanks!!!
I think it would be fine if
I think it would be fine if you called and talked to her about it. If the two of you get along, it just shows that you care. Besides, you need to understand it so when he comes you'll know what's going on if he acts a little different than normal.
Paz
It depends on the questions
It depends on the questions you plan to ask. I think if they at all question the diagnosis or she could interpret you are placing blame on her, it could be bad. I don't know about that, might want to leave it up to the father. Make him ask those type of questions. Birth mothers can be nice friends with stepmoms, but when it comes to their children they can also become very territorial.
If they are more general concerns like how he should be cared for that should be fine, and I'd agree with zoomom.
My ex-stepson was never
My ex-stepson was never diagnosed, but that boy could not remember anything you told him. Once somehow it got into long term memory, he was fine, actually good at doing routine things like remembering to brush his teeth, get his bath, that type of stuff without being told, but just give him things to "go do now" or study for anything, he could not remember anything you told him. I don't keep in touch with him anymore so I don't know how he turned out, but I believe he had some type of short term memory problem. I don't know how you go about getting something into a person's long term memory though!
I think it would be an
I think it would be an awesome idea for you to contact the mom. Keep it light and ask what you need to know to help him and maybe what you can do to help her through this. Ask if she will share things she finds that work with him. The biggest thing is to keep mom in the drivers seat and take your clues and hints from her.
I am an adult and suffer from short term memory loss and it is both frustrating and emberassing. I try to say something and can see the word in my head but it just wont come out. I now compensate by trying another word or using another phrase. If I stress out about it or am tired things get worse but now I can almost automatically catch and reroute it.
My doctor had me doing crossword puzzles and search the word puzzles. games like memory or making a list of items in a picture and trying to find them ( I think they are called I spy games). Regular video games dont help but if you can find ones that help strengthen the memory they will help and he will think he is playing a game. Try looking on the internet for "strengthening short term memory" techniiques for some ideas.
the emberassing part is repeating a story to my kids and them telling me I have already told them that at least 5 timea and I have no memory about it.
Blessed Thoughts,
Michelle
blessed thoughts,
Michelle
Diagnosis is a very open
Diagnosis is a very open word isn't it? I guess the diagnosis of short term memory loss doesn't answer how he got it does it. That is my question. What caused it? Need to prodd the doctor for more information. Just having that as an answer wouldn't do it for me, and it would freak me out. What tests were done to find out about this? Are there more tests that can be done to find out what caused it to make sure it doesn't cause further damage if it's something serious. I don't like just the diagnosis.
Lisa - Mom to her spunky little Scarlette