I 've been in a relationship for about ten years now we have 2 girls together. well come to find out he cheated on me yea i took him back. so now its time for the well woman pap turns out i got an std chlamydia ugh so i get a prescription from my doc. about 3 months pass i end up prego but going threw a misscaraige at 10 wks. I didnt know i was pregnant till i was misscarraing. But once i found out i wanted the baby so bad i didn't plan the pregnancy but i feel like i cant get pregnant now? i feel like i will never be able to concive again and i do want at least one more??? please help why do i feel this way? did anyone have this problem? is it cause i had an std that can cause infertility or my misscarraige both??
lrivas
Sweetie, when God takes a
Sweetie, when God takes a baby before s/he is born, it's to save him/her from suffering. We get broken hearts, but we're not so selfish as to wish that the little one would have been born sick. Having a miscarriage isn't a punishment; you've done nothing wrong. Go sing your little girls a lullaby, and trust that, if and when it's time for you to add to your family, you will be able to.
I understand why you're so
I understand why you're so sad. You just suffered a loss. Give yourself some time to grieve. Since the chlamydia was discovered and treated, it probably had nothing to do with your miscarriage. Talk to your doctor about your concerns, but more than likely you'll have another baby with no problems. I pray your relationship will be healed. The breaking of trust is really hard, and this tragedy may give you a chance to make sure things are truly healed with your boyfriend before you plan any more pregnancies. Best of luck to you, dear.
Hobbymommy, 38, is a discussion leader from Mesa. She is a happy stay-at-home mommy to a 3-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son.
First of all you need to
First of all you need to talk to you doctor about concerns of infertillity, miscarriages, and the possibility of passing along anything to a new child. Some STD's can been harmful in pregnancy and can be passed along to your unborn child (herpes, HIV/AIDS) but I don't know all the facts about that, that a professional would.
Second of all, I agree with the first post. I think that sometimes god (and trust me I'm no religious freak) has a way of sensing that this is not the best timing for you to have a child and steps in.
Please do one thing for you and your 2 other children first. Either repair your relationship with your partner completely before deciding to bring another child in because you want one really bad. I know that having a baby is a fantastic thing, but if you get pregnant while there are still trust and other ongoing issues, it will just cause more stress that no one needs while pregnant.
I wish you the best.
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Having dealt with it
Having dealt with it firsthand, I understand your loss. Miscarriage is difficult for anyone to deal with. I'd recommend getting in touch with others who have been through it. It's much more common than you probably realize. There are a ton of message boards online.
I think there's some primal instinct that makes a woman crave a baby after a loss. But really, you don't want to bring a baby into your current situation. The added pressure of pregnancy and baby will only make a rocky relationship worse. I
It would benefit everyone involved to either "fix" the issues in your current relationship or move on. Have you considered counseling for you and your boyfriend?
I'd say that since the STD was all cleared up it would have nothing to do with the miscarriage, but your doctor's office would be the best source.