For the IVF girls out there do you get annoyed when other girls tell you they are fertile Mertill (sp)? and that all they have to do is look at their husband and they will get pregnant? We had to do IVF 4 times to get pregnant with our 22 month old and it always annoyed me when girls would say that. Another was also, Just relax and stop thinking about it and it will happen. When my daughter was 9 months old we got pregnant on our own with my 6 month old son but it still bothers me when people say that. You just never know that if what you are saying could upset someone. I was just talking to a girl last week that I had just met and she saw my two little ones and she had this look on her face. We started talking and when the babies came up I mentioned to her that my daughter was our IVF miracle her eyes lit up and she said that she was going through fertility issues. I was so happy to share what I had been through and all I did (I mean I went to every DR in the valley) to get PG and I eventually had to leave the state for successful treatment (btw, AZ is 10 yrs behind when it comes to infertility) I could see the pain in her eyes and she told me that most of the moms she meets with more than one child always tell her how fertile they are and how this upsets her. She started to cry and I knew exactly how she was feeling... I really felt sad for her.
Elizabeth is a discussion leader for arizonamoms she writes about everything from her needing mommy advice to crazy and silly stuff that happens. She lives in the West Valley with her husband and 3 children.
Though not an IVF girl, but
Though not an IVF girl, but someone who has been suffering from infertility I feel extremely annoyed when people with kids advise me to relax and stop trying so hard. They don't seem to understand how frustrating and painful it is to go through infertility; not to mention very expensive. I wish people would just think before they start giving advice or comments.
People can be so
People can be so disheartening sometimes. I believe it has to do with laying the ego aside and listening. Many people do not know how to do this. I understand that sometimes we just need to talk about our struggles.
Fertile Myrtle? Hmmm. I agree with you about finding experts in fertility issues in Phoenix. I know that acupuncture can increase pregnancy outcome as an adjunct to embryo transfer after IVF.
Foresight preconceptual care is a clinic in the UK. They have a 78% success ratio. They use an integrative health approach towards pregnancy and hair mineral analysis.
http://www.foresight-preconception.org.uk/
Jan Katzen-Luchenta
Author - Nutrition for Learning:Feeding the Starving Brain - Foresight nutritional counselor- Montessori educator - www.nutritionforlearning.com
I agree it is very annoying
I agree it is very annoying to hear others easy success stories when you have to go through so much effort and pain for the same thing. I truly think in that case just smile and change the subject. People can say the most insensitive things and not realize how painful it can be. Only someone who has walked a path similar to you can understand. Most people are so uninformed about infertility. In most cases infertility is a medical issue and no amount of relaxing will make it go away. I am 25 weeks pregnant with IVF DE. I am finding that just being pregnant doesn’t make the fertility feelings go away. It does not change the medical issues I will be dealing with for the rest of my life. I see that infertility is a journey I am still on. There is still some healing and growing that will take place as the journey continues. Just remember we will never take for granted having our precious little ones. I hope that this helps in letting you know you are not alone in the way you feel and it is perfectly normal to have those feelings.
Thank you for your opinion on AZ being behind with infertility. I have two embryos stored and will consider going back to the clinic that they are stored at instead of having them shipped to me.