Not sure why this is happening, but over the past week my 15 month old daughter gets upset when i put her on the changing table to change her diaper or even change her clothes. She gives me what i refer to as the death grip. (i know that sounds horrible, "death grip", but it's basically a hug - arms around my neck, and she seems like she is holding on for dear life.) While she is holding on for dear life i am talking to her and explaining that i need to change your diaper or whatever the case may be. I finally get her down and at this point she is crying....a couple of times she has started kicking her feet and picking her head up and slamming it back down - thank god for the changing table pad. I try to distract her with toys, singing (maybe it's my awful signing), letting her hold a diaper, anything so that she calms down. And it usually works, but i am not sure where this is all coming from.
The only thing i can think of, is last week she had her 15 month check up and she got four immunizations. Is it that she is starting to associate the laying down on the changing table with laying down on the cushioned table at the doctors office.
Not sure if this is a normal behavior or if she is getting to a stage where she wants to be more in control or what. She has just recently started shaking her head side to side in a way of saying "no", she's done this a few times now.
Anyone else ever experience this?
just~me
My son started doing that
My son started doing that after his 1st birthday. Suddenly he didn't want his diaper changed. I do think it is a matter of control. I started asking him if he wanted his diaper changed and if he said no, then I would waait and ask him again a few minutes later. It usually doesn't take too long for them to want a clean diaper. Then you can congratulate them on making a big kid decision to get a clean diaper. Good Luck!
This is completely normal.
This is completely normal. Some kids don't do it but most do. I have two boys and they both did it. Like life was giong to end if he wasn't playing or doing what he wants to do.
I have learned a few tricks, but as long as you try to distract them and just get it done it goes away eventually.
Good luck, and she is going into the terrible two territory so just be prepared to stick it out for the long haul. LOL!
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I don't think this is
I don't think this is anything to worry about. You may want to change diapers and clothes on the floor and see what happens. My little guy started HATING his changing table aroung 15 months also, so I stated laying down changing pads on the floor and just doing it there. It may be fear of heights/falling, or maybe just the fact that she wants to feel like a "big girl" already and do it like you. You never know.
Good luck with whatever you try!!!!!!
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I agree that this is normal,
I agree that this is normal, and to try changing her on the floor. Also, if the diaper is not messy, change her standing up. It doesn't have anything to do with the shots, she's already forgotten about that.
I am going through the same
I am going through the same thing with my daughter and she's 17 months. She has been doing this for awhile though. I just try to entertain her the best way I can until we are done. I just chalked it up to her not wanting to be confined for the moment. She's a very active little girl!
Thank you for the feedback.
Thank you for the feedback. It's reassuring to know others have experienced the same behavior with their little ones.
just~me
Of course - your little girl
Of course - your little girl could be a bit out of sorts from her doctor's visit. Aweee. I bet she thinks you have a beautiful voice.
A few suggestions:
Whispering to her - I don't know why this usually works for me. Probably because its a novel tone of voice and soothing. Looking into her eyes whie you do this creates a "soul" connection.
Changing her (after urination) while she is standing up. Of course, a bowel movement will be tricky but at least it can start out standing up. I always change the children standing up. That way you can engage them using eye contact, describing what you are doing, then ultimately delegating appropriate self-care skills.
One of the first self-care skills for young children is "getting my own diaper." Believe it or not I actually tried this. I went into a child's cubby and began to put a diaper over my clothing. I was laughing hysterically. I asked the child to get his. He had been refusing. Seeing Miss Jan acting so silly inspired him to comply.
As the child gains more fine motor control, s/he can learn to pull down pants, undo the diaper, etc.
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