Oh Heavenly Father my heart hurts so much right now. I think I’m going to throw up.
How can a parent hurt their child? How can a parent alow someone else to hurt their child?
I am guilty of yelling at my kids to much. Of telling them “In a minute, I’m busy”. When I’m not really busy just being lazy on my part as a parent. I look into my childrens eyes and I see such love there, how can I not do better?
Today an article in the Arizona Republic brought me to my knees. Trenay Duchane was beeten to death by her father’s girlfriend and I am assuming at some point also beaten by her father. Her sister, Treshae Duchane was beaten and traumatized by watching and hearing her sister beaten and then she had to hear her sister dying over a period of days.
WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE DO THIS????? I AM CRYING AND HURTING OVER THIS.
These people beat these little girls with a notted up electrical courd. They punched them in the face. They burned them with cigerattes, and scalding water. They bit them and broke the surviving girls arm and sice it was never set she has a crippled arm. CPS “lost track of them”. The scool “lost track of them”. Treshae twice showed up at school with 2 BLACK EYES. The second time the very week her sister had been absent from school for more than 10 days and the school removed her from their attendance list because of the absences. They did not call CPS because the Treshae said she was in a car accident and a fight. They called the abusers who verified the story. They didn’t call CPS on Trenay going missing because they are not required too. They say they sent a parent liason, but there are no records.
CPS sent a letter 1 year before asking for contact “or else further action would be made”. No contact from the parents and no further action from CPS. The case was closed.
Trenay’s final beating came about because she made a mess in her room. Her sister heard her screams as she was forced to climb in a tub with scalding water. As she was giving the beating that would kill her. The police were only called after Trenay’s body started to decompose and smell on her bedroom floor. Treshae was found cowering in the bathtub with open wounds, some infected. Trenay’s body was laying by a notebook filled in her own little girl handwriting “I will listen to my mom”.
I know she is with Our Lord. She is not in pain and is a beautiful peaceful angel. But I hurt so much for her and her sister. I pray her sister gets the help she will need for as long as she will need it. I hope someone shows her a hug and the beautiful way it makes you feel.
What can I do to help?
I can’t wait for my kids to come home from school and I turn this computer and the TV off and hug them and cook for them and paly with them and look at them.
I don’t know what else to say or do. I had to write. Who else could I tell about my pain but other mothers who are so devoted to their own children that we argue over who loves them more.
Please stop and say a prayer for these innocent girls. Please say another one everytime you read this. Don’t forget them as so many others did.
bookworm_mom ~ mommy of twins
Wasn't this an event that
Wasn't this an event that happened earlier this year and this is a follow up article? I couldn't find it in azcentral.com but I do remember something like this earlier this year as it was not far by where we shop Costco (Glendale and 15th Ave I believe) and it was horrifying. And I remember there was another article at the same time about a puppy being abused and that had more responses in the blog than this article and it was so sad...
H~
Mom of 2 Daughters - Kelly (3 yrs) and Skylar (21 mos old)
zoostationu2@hotmail.com
Yes. It happened a while
Yes. It happened a while back. I still see the faces of that father and his girlfriend in my mind...and of course that poor little girl!
ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING, HORRIBLE HORRIBLE PEOPLE!
It makes me upset to hear
It makes me upset to hear these kinds of stories. I prayed for months to have a baby and when I was pregnant I worried everyday that my son wouldn't be healthy. I am always worried for his safety. Some people who deserve to have children can't have any. I just don't understand
As terrible as these stories
As terrible as these stories are, and no one wants to hear them we have to hear them. It's so important that we as parents don't keep our eyes & ears shut to situations like these. I cried when I first read about this story too. Absolutely horrific.
Lisa - Mom to her spunky little Scarlette
I know this didn't happen
I know this didn't happen yesterday, but I didn't hear about it when it did happen. When I read the story today I was just slammed with emotion and horror. I had to write and get it out and encourage others to pray for these girls and also to be aware. I would call in a heartbeat if I suspected a child was being abused. I have in fact called on my own step-sister because she refused to see the abuse being done by her boyfriend. That's not a realtionship I have any more, but to protect a child how could I not forfit the realtionship to get her help?
bookworm_mom ~ mommy of twins
This article was out of
This article was out of Laurie Roberts blog. www.azcentral.com/blogs. Laurie writes alot about CPS and the issues this agency has with protecting kids.
This is just so sad. I have also been following stories about a boyfriend or step-dad that beats a child to death. They normally are the culprit about 75% of the time.
DD 3 years old brand new baby Luke David born 6/9/08 9lb 1oz 21 1/2 inches long
Yes - nocgirl, I think I
Yes - nocgirl, I think I remember reading your comments on one of the blogs, and how you were pummelled by indignant women who were upset you'd cast stepfathers/boyfreinds in such a bad light! I completely agreed with you then, and I still do now - children are much more likely to be abused by a step parent or one of their parent's boyfreind/girlfrend or whatever the case may be. Women (and men)really need to open their eyes about who they allow into their children's lives......you read story after story about a child falling victim to mom's live in lover, and it astounds me that some of these women(and men!) know full well the abuse is going on and do absolutely nothing to protect their own flesh and blood.....instead their focus is on preserving the romantic relationship. It's pathetic. Lovers come and go - but your children are not replaceable.
If my husband and I were to divorce, I don't think I'd look to bring another man into his life.....I would probably strive to keep my dating life(if I chose to have one) and my life with my son completely separate until he became an adult. No offense to anyone that is in a blended family situation, as there are many who make it work, but I'd be awfully leery of the risk. Just my opinion!
ditto! My mom did the same
ditto!
My mom did the same thing - waited until we were all out of her nest and then she found someone and remarried. She had fun being single for about 15 years.
I would do the same if anything ever happens to my hubby which I certainly hope not as I really would like to see him walking all of his girls down the marriage aisle.
H~
Mom of 2 Daughters - Kelly (3 yrs) and Skylar (21 mos old)
zoostationu2@hotmail.com
I know there are some really
I know there are some really cool step-parents out there, and some on this board as a matter of fact, so it isn't that I paint them all with the same brush or judge people for re-marrying when their kids are small......I just think it's a risk, that's all.
I totally understand - I am
I totally understand - I am a step mom myself and I don't see that you are trying create a stir in the blended family issue.
For me, I just rather wait until my girls are out of my nest and then move on with myself just like what my mom did. Part of this is the risk issue and the other part is that I had enjoyed being single in the past. Another thing - I don't agree in bringing home one boyfriend after another like some of my single moms friends do but it is their life. For me, it just doesn't send a good message to my girls, you know.
H~
Mom of 2 Daughters - Kelly (3 yrs) and Skylar (21 mos old)
zoostationu2@hotmail.com