This Mother's Day has brought me a flood of emotions. I awoke this morning to a breakfast on the patio with my three children and husband, complete with eggs, jellybeans and candy hearts. I could not help but feel loved, yet last night I tossed and turned realizing this would the first Mother's Day that I myself would feel at a loss for how to celebrate. My mother passed away suddenly in December and not a day goes by that I don't long to hear her voice and call her and tell her a story about that kids.
I know she is at peace now, but on this special day I certainly miss saying Happy Mother's Day to the one person who gave me life and so very much love.
For those who have lost their mothers, how do you mark this day?
JuneSlager is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com, raising three children (ages 15, 14, & 11) in Northeast Phoenix.
Do something that she'd do.
Do something that she'd do. Thankfully, I still have my Mom, but I lost my Godmother this year. She was a hugger; no kid got into or out of her house without a hug in each direction. I'm going to go out of my way, today, to dole out a few hugs. I think that would please her.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss. Today might be a great day to share pictures and memories of your mother,and your mother's mother, with your children. It might make you feel better to talk about her with them, and help them know/remember what Grandma was like.
GopherGirl is a discussion follower. She lives in the West Valley with her husband and two boys, ages 4 and 2.
My Mother died when I was
My Mother died when I was pregnant with my youngest. (She just turned 6.) It was also in the month of December, which I think is very cruel. That is when I have my hardest times.
I take some quiet time to think about her, I mean really think about her. Pictures, stories, great memories. Sometimes I visit her grave site on Mother's day. Not always though, it is not close. I know she knows how much I love her and miss her. Mothers, they are amazing aren't they? I am glad to be a part of this and I know my Mother would be proud of me.
KarilouMomof2 is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com living in Tempe. Her daughters are 9 and 6.
My husband felt like you on
My husband felt like you on Mothers Day until we had our own baby 18 months ago. The baby brings so much happiness to my husband, so I believe it helps to keep his mind busy, compared to when he didn't have the baby. I use to feel so guilty buying my mom a gift. When it came time for us to sign the card, my husband would begin to cry. I was lost for words, because I never knew what to say without getting sad myself. Many times, I have cried with him and its been 15 years since she past. My husband can hardly speak of his deceased mom without becoming sad, so we very seldom speak of her, unless he brings it up.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Just be like us and count your blessings for everyday that you have with your children and husband.
My husbands mother is buried in Illinois, but if she was near, we would definitely go visit her gravesite every chance we got.
One Happy Mom in Arizona.
I'm so sorry. Honestly, I
I'm so sorry. Honestly, I don't know what I would do without my mom...you are a strong woman. Hope your day went well and you were able to remember what you loved about your mother.
Brooke Romney is an unbalanced mom of three young boys who constantly has too much to do, and too little time. She writes the Mom Beat column for The Gilbert Republic.
It's so hard to lose your
It's so hard to lose your mom because she's the person you have no memory of every being 'without.' We all remember a time when life didn't include our husband or our kids or our friends, but virutally every minute of our lives (until mom dies) include her.
So when she's gone, it's like suddenly being lost without a map. It's hard to take in the fact that she won't be there any more, because she's never NOT been there. And so we keep turning to tell or show or give her something, only to find her gone.
The best advice I can give is remember the times you had together and share them with YOUR kids. Especially on Mother's Day. Go through the old photos and pass on the love you have for her to the next generation. That will honor her, comfort you, and extend the love to the next generation.
I don't mark the day in any
I don't mark the day in any way but I'd like some suggestions too. This was my third Mother's day without my Mom and there is truly something missing now. This was the first year that I could go out and buy my mother-in-law and sister's a Mother's day card. My family makes the day beautiful for me but there's still a kind of lonliness to it. I have a feeling it will always be that way. But if anyone has idea's on how they celebrate their Mom's who have gone-I'd love to hear it!!
Paz