Today, I listened to a Mother give her sons eulogy. For the past few days I have been looking at my children and thinking "what if something were to happen to one of them". It's a fear every Mother has. Today, I sat and listened to this Mother and tears were streaming down my face. I kept thinking that I don't know what she is going through and I can't even understand it. My heart was aching for her. Last night I was holding my 9 month old son and I can not imagine life without him or my other two children for that matter. As I was looking at my 9 month old, I was wondering what will his life be like, what will he accomplish, will he be happy? will he be healthy? All these thoughts are going through my head and I wonder if this mother ever sat holding her son at 9 months and wondered the same thing, I'm sure she did. What she didn't think as she was holding her son was will I have to say goodbye to him at 27 years old and have to give his eulogy. It all seems so unfair yet this Mother wasn't screaming or angry at God. She was at peace because she knew her son had given his heart to God and he was welcomed with open arms into Heaven. Even though death scares me and I can't wrap my head around how final it is and how one min you can be here living and breathing and the next min you can be just gone, I do know that Heaven doesn't scare me. I grew up very involved in my Methodist Church, with my Mother being in charge of our youth choir, you could say it was our home away from home. I have always known Heaven was a wonderful perfect place. I guess everybody's Heaven is different. I'm sure mine would be filled with my family and friends and a Neimans near bye. It's true that tomorrow is not promised. Life is so uncertain. If you have given your heart and life to God then you will enjoy your wonderful perfect place. I guess take a min and think "what if something happened to me, or my family or one of my friends tomorrow", What if they have not given their heart and life to God? As my heart is aching for this Mother I heard every single word she said and I think what she has said has (to use a sports analogy) helped move me from a spectator in the stands to the game of actively serving God. I want to reach out and tell people that life is short and tomorrow is not promised and to do now what you are putting off. Give your heart to God because tomorrow is not promised.
So do me a favor and if you read this just respond with a YES if you have or will give your heart to God. I guess it will help me sleep.. I'm beside myself at what this family is going through.
My husband knew this Mother's son and I never got the chance to meet him. I was really looking forward to meeting him with everything my husband had said about him. He said he was one extraordinary human being and that he had a vision and passion for life like no other. It's sad that I never got to meet him here on earth but maybe (hopefully 80 or so years from now) up in heaven our paths will cross and I can tell him just how much he impressed my husband and how much his Mother really effected me as she spoke today.
Elizabeth is a discussion leader for arizonamoms she writes about everything from her needing mommy advice to crazy and silly stuff that happens. She lives in the West Valley with her husband and 3 children, Joshua 12, Brooke 2 and Mason 10 months
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KarilouMomof2 is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com living in Tempe. Her daughters are 9 and 6.
Your story is very touching.
Your story is very touching. I believe things happen to get our attention. It got your attention, and your story will get more attention from the readers. It is too sad to read so early, but it makes us all realize just how quick a person can be taken from us. We'll pray that God gives this mom strength and every other parent that has lost a child.
My husband and I often wonder how a parent lives after the death of a child. When we look at our child sleeping or laughing, our thoughts of living without him, or him living without us, just makes my heart ache. I often wonder about how does a mom gives all her love to a baby, and then to watch him or her go off to war. This is a lesson to teach us to not take life for granted. We all need to show more love, appreciation, respect, smiles, and giving to each other.
When my 18 year old cousin died in a car accident, my Uncle has never been the same since. He visits his grave absolutely every day. He will carry the pain to his grave. It is truly sad to see a parent that has lost a child, and there is nothing that can help ease the pain either.
One Happy Mom in Arizona.
My mom just lost my brother
My mom just lost my brother this last January (he was 33), and I just had a friend who lost her one month old to SIDS. Your right it doesn't seem fair does it. I think the worst part for me was watching my friend picking up her daughter from the mortuary in a box. All I could think about was that I have laughter, tears, poop, tantrums all kinds of stuff that even if they may not be enjoyable to an extent that I'm blessed to have them. My friend gets a box, and I have never felt more devestated in my life.
We have to turn to our faith to get through these trials in life. I became a lot more religious after my brother died in the bus accident. Asking myself why this could happen to him and the other people who passed. Why my friend who was the happiest in her life after she found out she was pregnant had the one life changing person that she needed in her life taken from her?
I know that life isn't fair, but it sure sheds light on mortality. I've been angry with God, but I also apologize later, because I have to accept that my brother and my friends daughter, and everyone close to me that has passed in this lifetime is in good hands. That they are in a better place, and although I am afraid of the next step of going myself somehow these people braved it, and are hopefully looking down on us telling us not to be afraid.
I like to think that everything happens for a reason. I may not agree with the way things go that's for sure, but I have to believe that the ones who pass are going to heaven for a better reason, and that God needed them. I also view my life differently. I've become closer with family, and have tried to make memorable experiences with my daughter because nothing in life is certain. And that is the message that I recieved from these experiences.
Lisa - Mom to her spunky little Scarlette
That is heartbreaking.
That is heartbreaking.
Elizabeth is a discussion leader for arizonamoms she writes about everything from her needing mommy advice to crazy and silly stuff that happens. She lives in the West Valley with her husband and 3 children, Joshua 12, Brooke 2 and Mason 10 months
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jesshod is an arizonamoms.com discussion leader living in Surprise.