How would you feel if your husband received an email that was addressed like this:
Joe, etc ~~
We received an email like this from a relative of my husbands. I've met this person twice and my husband is not very close with her. Over the past 18 months i've sent her photos of our daughter and all of our names are signed "love, Joe, Jane and June" (not our real names) on every card. She wrote my husband back via email to thank him for the photo and included some additional information.
At first i did not even notice the "etc ~~" part. Then i read it again and the "etc ~~" part caught my attention and i thought it was rude!! I am not going to say anything to her, although my husband got an earful from me (not that i was mad at him, just how rude i thought it was), but he was not surprised at all how she started the email off. But why even bother with the "etc ~~" part and not just address the email to "Joe"?
Am i being too sensitive? Would you ever start an email off like that? I never have, not even when i was sending out mass communications at work.
just~me
I agree. That's pretty
I agree. That's pretty rude! I wouldn't get to upset about it though. Some people have zero manners and being this isn't a person you have an obligation to see or communicate with often, I would just let it go.
Perhaps send a note and sign it LOVE, JOE, etc!! Maybe then they'll realize!
That's not only rude that's
That's not only rude that's weird. Why would anyone refer to people as "etc"? I have never done that nor has it ever crossed my mind and I send out alot of emails. I also recieve a ton of email and have never recieved and email addressed jennifer, etc... I sign cards, pictures and slideshows with all of our names and get replied to with all of our names. Maybe she just dosen't realize how rude it sounds or maybe both you and I are over sensitive. :)
I do agree that it is weird!
I do agree that it is weird! I have never heard of someone doing that....maybe joe and family but never an etc....I wouldnt take it to heart. Sounds like none of you are really close with her.
It is rude, but probably not
It is rude, but probably not an insult directed at you personally. This person most likely uses this 'short hand' often and doesn't see how offensive it is.
If I were you, I wouldn't mention it to her. If you do, she'll just cast YOU as the one who is being rude because YOU pointed it out. Let it go and be happy that you are socially aware enough not to treat others so shabbily.
I agree with all the other
I agree with all the other moms, it was very rude and inpersonal. However, I would just let it go. She is not someone you see or talk to often. Sorry for your hurt feelings...
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I find it rude, too. If you
I find it rude, too. If you don't know names, the most decent thing to write is "Joe & family."
I agree with the mom to let it go. There are much more important things to stress about.
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It sounds like a dismissal.
It sounds like a dismissal. On purpose. I'm sure that's why it bothers you. If I were you I would ask your husband to reply to her last e mail and ask HER what etc., means in a very nice way. Maybe if she found herself explaining it she would see that it's rude.
Paz
I agree with Braybee, keep
I agree with Braybee, keep sending what you send just change your salutation to Joe~etc (I couldn't even find the ~ button for a minute). Next family gathering, make Joe a t-shirt that says "I'm With ~Etc" and an arrow pointing......
I'll agree, the relative is
I'll agree, the relative is being insensitive. Probably not intentional, maybe she'd rather be an "etc" than not recognized at all herself??? Maybe she just wants to show off that she knows how to make that swivel sign (Kelli, you'll have to tell me where, as I don't find it...)
OR MAYBE she is getting etc. confused with et al. Which I think is a more acceptable reference, at LEAST fancier. I sometimes sign something that I've written to a friend love, Myname, et al. instead of signing all my family's name. Who knows.
Try not to let it bother you, you know your family is more than an etc (swivel, swivel) :)
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I bet she wasn't even
I bet she wasn't even thinking at the time, so I wouldn't give it another thought either if I were you. Not worth the brain power.
DesertMom
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I don't think you're being
I don't think you're being too sensitive. I think she was inconsiderate. If she didn't know your name, she should have just put your husband's name. I wouldn't give it any more thought.
jesshod is an arizonamoms.com discussion leader living in Surprise.
I don't think you are being
I don't think you are being too sensitive. The address on this message is definitely insensitive. I though am not sure of this person's intent and unfortunately that is probably your dilemma as well. If they are used to texting and abbreviating they might think this a cute way of addressing a letter. That doesn't make it right or polite, but the best thing to do is communicate with the family member if it continues to bother you.