I remember sitting in Chemistry class my senior in high school telling my lab partner how my life was going to be. I will marry at 27 to a man who is a lawyer, eight years older than myself, have 4 kids, live in the house with the white picket fence, and be this perfect stay at home mom/wife..Reality..I move from Chicago to Scottsdale, sold radio in town for 12+ years at 100% commission, met my future husband at 27 and didn't get married until I was 30. At 34 attempted to start my 4 kid family only to discover fertility issues and the drama that was involved in the whole process..ended up with triplets and staring at four walls depressed. Now, the kids are in school and I want to get back into the work environment but only from 9-3p because I need to be wonder woman from 3p on. Trying to keep off the 80+ pounds I gained while carrying these triplets, I began training for 1/2 marathons and soon the weight came off. But yet, I'm still looking for more. The only thing I got right describing my life in Chemisty class is that I would marry a man 8 years older than myself...I'm trying to find balance in all of this but still feel lost.
Any suggestions on how I can do and be it all or that impossible?
Lisa_SchneiderCipriano is a discussion leader in the North, North very tip of Phoenix for arizonamoms.com. She has 6 year old triplets.
I think when you where in
I think when you where in high school you set yourself up for the impossible. Things like choosing your career you can accomplish but marrying a lawyer. You would have to date only lawyers etc Things take time I want to do everything like be a cop dr and a firefighter at the same time but Its impossible I will just try one out and than change etc Opportunities will arise just be ready
I think someone commented on
I think someone commented on another post once (about finding your passion), that you can do it all, just not all at once. I think that's great advice. Figure out what's most important now, and put your focus on that. Now that the kids are in school, you can put more focus on your career, and think what a great place you're in to be able to re-invent that! As your kids get older, they'll gradually (and sadly, I'm sure) need you less, and you can focus that time elsewhere.
We rarely end up where we thought we would in high school, but really, would you change anything about it?
GopherGirl is a discussion follower. She lives in the West Valley with her husband and two boys, ages 4 and 2.
You are giving your all and
You are giving your all and that makes you supermom!! You should do what makes you happy and don't sweat the small stuff. If you had to buy the cookies because work was hectic..it's ok that there not homemade. I'm sure your kids love there mother and your husband appreciates all that you do. It's not about how many things you accomplish in one day that makes you a better mom..Dont overwork yourself, we all need down relax time !!
**Whatever it is..Wrap it up in Love and the Possibilities are Endless**
Hey, I did the same thing!
Hey, I did the same thing! When I was in HS I planned my whole life out like it was controllable. What a riot.
The only thing you can count on is change.
My house is so neat - people call it pristine sometimes - because it's the only thing in life I know I can control. The vacume cleans things up so nice and neatly, but life is not like that.
It sounds like you've done a great job working at your goals and maybe you've even had a little fun along the way. That plus being loving and kind to others is a good life. The rest is all distraction, lessons or bonus.
I know life rarely turns out
I know life rarely turns out the way we plan. So you go with the flow and it eventually all turns out just fine. If you are looking to get into the workforce I'd suggest deciding what industry you want to get into. Do you want to go back to 100% commission or try something new? Think about what works for you and the schedule you desire too. Maybe going back into your previous role might take some ramping up time, but then once things start happening then you can work that schedule? Or does it work that way? Or you can look into a new type of position that allows that flexibility. Like say a school teacher. Think about it and research the various jobs that are out there then start to talk to people in that industry to find out the pros/cons and go from there. I know it'll take time, but be patient - I wish you the best!
LisaMommy is a 38 year old discussion leader for arizonamoms.com from the Paradise Valley/Scottsdale area. Her two boys are ages 9 months and 3 years old.