Ok, so my husband and i attended a wedding in September of 07. My husband was a groomsmen in the wedding. I was thinking the other day...that we have not received a thank you card from them yet. I realize they have a year to get the thank you cards out, but I brought it up to my husband and as soon as the words came out of my mouth...it hit me.
I never bought a card to go with the gift!!!!!! How embarrassing!!! I had the gift wrapped at the store and never thought about the gift again until it was time for the wedding. I feel absolutely horrible!! Who does something like that?
I know my husband will not contact the groom and say "oh by the way.....", so i didn't even ask. As for the bride, we have only ever met her twice, (they live in another state) so it's not like i feel comfortable calling her and up telling her "oh by the way.....",.
So the question is...........do i just let it go or would i be out of line sending the bride an email and confessing to what i did? I honestly do not want them to think we stiffed them on a gift. May sound silly, but i am really very embarrassed!!
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I would send an email and
I would send an email and tell her and she will prob laugh it off. It might bring you two closer and who knows you guys could do family vaca's later on when they have kids...
btw, I would so do something like that... I am always doing forgetful stuff...
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I too would confess and tell
I too would confess and tell her that it suddenly hit me while recollecting or looking at some photos or about to attend another wedding that I totally spaced a card. She's probably wondering who gave her your gift at the same time!
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What about sending her a
What about sending her a wedding card now with your handwritten, funny story and a brief apology inside it--that way, she finally knows who gave her your lovely present, you feel better because I'm sure you wanted to give her a card, too--and that way, it appears as though the focus is on your forgetting the card and not whether she sent a thank you.
If it were a large wedding
If it were a large wedding and a lot of gifts, the couple may not have even realized what happend. Between all the gifts, family in town, and the honeymoon chances are there minds may have been other places. If it was a small wedding they may have noticed and you might want to send them an email. At least you will get it off your chest and stop worrying about it.
I like the idea about
I like the idea about sending a card, but an email would work too. If I were the bride I'd be feeling guilty about not having thanked someone for their gift. Something like this happened at my wedding. Luckily it was small enough that I could narrow down who the gift was from.
I agree, send them a card
I agree, send them a card now and make a note of how you forgot to put the card with the gift (make it humourous and light). I think they'll appreciate it (maybe make a note as to the gift you sent) as I'm sure they were trying to figure out who sent the gift too. That similar situation happened to us - except I asked the store the couple was registered at to include a card/note & the store forgot. It wasnt until later in the year that I was talking to the bride and mentioned that the dept. store never sent me an email telling me that the gift was delivered (as I purchased it online) and I just wanted to make sure she did receive it. She noted 'so that was the gift without a card' an error on the stores behalf! I felt so horrible, because they probably thought we did not get them a gift (and this was my husbands brother & his bride.)
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I agree: get a card, and
I agree: get a card, and write a short note on it. For example, "I was looking at the photos of your wedding, and it struck me that, what with all the fun and hospitality we were enjoying, I forgot to sign this and include it with the [salt and pepper shakers] we got for you. Please forgive my absent-mindedness." The record will be set straight, and no one will need to feel uncomfortable.
If you feel weird about
If you feel weird about saying it straight out depending on the gift you could bring it up casually in an email or conversation. something like: "So I was looking at the photos from the wedding recently, how is the blah-blah working out for you.?"