I adore my husband and I feel so lucky to be married to someone who does more than his share of cleaning. So, what do I have to complain about? He's great at housecleaning - sometimes a little too great. As in overly eager. A few weeks ago in his dusting frenzy he knocked over and broke one of my favorite little creamers. (Of course he was very apologetic.) And just last weekend he proudly showed me the wonderful cleaning job he did on the stove - so great that the cleanser he used took the black paint off. (Oops! Weren't we going to replace the stove anyway??). What should I do? Say something that might hurt his feelings and risk losing his help? Or grin and bear it?
Lattemom is the mother of three energetic kids ages 6, 8 & 11 and a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com.
First, be thankful you had a
First, be thankful you had a wonderful husband.
Next, communicate your complains/anything you feel towards it to your husband. Usually, everything can be worked out w/o arguments or discourage him to do the cleaning. Perhaps, you can suggest him to ask you about cleansers, other cleaning products you may have before using them :D
Just a thought, hope this helps;
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Lattemom, I think it is
Lattemom, I think it is interesting you listed this under "romance & sex" there is nothing sexier than a husband cleaning house in my opinion (lol)
I'd let it go. If my husband gave me tips with out me asking for them, I think it would squelch my desire to help for a while. I know I've knocked stuff over and used the wrong cleaning product (our new faucet got sprayed with the wrong stuff and got spotted in its first week) and I am supposed to be the cleaning "expert." :(
So, I'd chalk it up to life and enjoy the help!
Lovemy4 is a discussion leader for North Central Phoenix, tired mother of 4 great kids and wife to one great husband.
LOL...my first thought is
LOL...my first thought is let me swap out husbands with this lady and she will count her lucky graces. My suggestion to you would be chalk it up and take the good and forget the bad. Check your cleaners to make sure they are multipurpose and won't kill appliances, paint, wood, ect. Honestly, I wish I had that problem :( I can barely get my loving hubby to take out the trash or plate to the sink lol.
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I agree with lovemy4. Enjoy
I agree with lovemy4. Enjoy the help and let it go. My husband and I split up chores and we've both done things accidentally (shrinking my husband's boxers in the dryer, etc) that we let slide.
Susie is a discussion leader in the east valley for arizonamoms.com. She has two sons, ages 6 and 2.
Grin and bear it is what I
Grin and bear it is what I would do. Of course you need to tell your girlfriends to get this off your chest or you might explode :)
Wish I had your problem. My husband has a but first problem. Example: Oh I have to pick up my socks and underwear, but first I need to go do ___________insert other chore and then Oh I need to do this_________but first I have to do this_________________
The but first list is endless.
KarilouMomof2 is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com living in Tempe. Her daughters are 9 and 6.
Just grin and bear it...you
Just grin and bear it...you could have someone who is basically uninvolved and doesn't actually do much, but just comes along behind you and critcizes everything you do and the decisions you make........I'd prefer the haphazard cleaning.
I agree just be
I agree just be thankful....
My husband hasn't ruined anything (that I have found, anyways) but he does this thing where he will clean out something and leave a huge mess of odds and ins of stuff that shouldn't be in what ever he is cleaning.I am thankful....him and I have great humor towards each other, so I will make little jokes....don't forget to clean the mess you make cleaning...that kind of thing.....sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't.
Hey all - thanks for the
Hey all - thanks for the chuckles. Yes, I think the "grin & bear it" method is the best at this point. I don't want to stop a good thing (my husband cleaning). And of course, most of the time he does a great job without managing to break or destroy anything. You all made me realize that of course I'm guilty of ruining some of his stuff too (mainly ruining clothes in the dryer). Thanks!!
Lattemom is the mother of three energetic kids ages 6, 8 & 11 and a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com.
****Excuse me while I pick
****Excuse me while I pick my chin up off the ground***
I am SOOOOOO jealous that your husband breaks things! (while cleaning, of course!)...ok, some things ruined here and there are much more tolerable when the man is actually picking up a dust cloth!
Let's do HubbySwap instead of WifeSwap!!! Please, please??? I love my lazy man to death, but after what you described yours doing...you would be BEGGING for him back!!! ...I promise you- your appreciation for your hubby would overwhelm you! (and I would be begging your husband to stay for one more cleaning day and CHEERING on whatever he breaks!)
Count your lucky stars! Seriously!