Our son was just invited to a birthday party, and he wants to bring a gift. The problem is that we already gave the birthday boy a generous gift on his real birthday. The party is a last-minute, belated affair framed as a birthday party and that will include others, but we don't want to seem stingy to those attending (or perhaps to the family) who will br throwing the party.
What's a good compromise? We want to acknowedge the day, but I'm not able to afford--nor do I wish to promote--an excess, considering the generosity of everyone involved in the last round of gifting.
Only take a card - that way
Only take a card - that way you are walking in with something. You shouldn't feel obligated to give another gift nor explain to anyone that you already provided a gift. I noticed at birthday parties starting with 12 year olds that gifts were not automatic anyhow. Hope the party is fun!
Mom of teenage boys!
Absolutely do not feel
Absolutely do not feel obligated to double-gift. The idea of a card is a great suggestion.
If you have any doubts, when you see the birthday boy, mention, "Oh, (insert name). Happy Birthday! We really hope you are enjoying the (insert gift item)!" That way, it serves as a gentle reminder that you didn't overlook anything and it confirms that you already celebrated his birthday with a gift.
While I have not experienced this yet with my childrens' friends, I have with the many nephews and nieces I enjoy, and this line has served me well. I've even said it to some of my adult friends or relatives in similar situations.
Hope this helps!
Mouse_tales is a discussion leader in the East Valley for arizonamoms.com. She is a business owner, community volunteer, and aspiring runner (whew!), who most enjoys her roles as wife & mom. Her children range in age from 4 to 13.
Both above suggestions are
Both above suggestions are great. Especially considering that any other guest "judging" if you are being cheap showing up w/out a gift, will simply assume that there is probably a gift card inside the card you brought.
If you want to be doubly sure your previous gift is acknowledged, you can also write inside the card....."hope you are enjoying your ____. We're thrilled to be included today in your celebration!"
Have fun!
Happy2BMommy, is a stay-at-home mom who just turned 40 (argh!) with a 6 yr. old daughter and a 4 yr. old son, and is a discussion leader for arizonamoms.com living in Scottsdale.
Go to the dollar store and
Go to the dollar store and let your child pick 3 things--maybe toys, markers or candy. Then you can bring something without spending much. You hate to be the one without a present!
Brooke Romney is an unbalanced mom of three young boys who constantly has too much to do, and too little time. She writes the Mom Beat column for The Gilbert Republic.
Thank goodness for TJ Maxx,
Thank goodness for TJ Maxx, Marshall's and Ross. You can find smokin' deals there that won't break the bank and will still make you feel like you're not walking in empty handed. It's a funky situation and we've all been in at one time or another, but that's what I would do.
I too love the dollar store. The one by my house rocks!
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